Your Personal Space

by Douglas J. Moore, Ph.D.

KEEPING NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS

You

Having trouble keeping New Year's resolutions? have good intentions, but after two weeks you are back doing the same old thing? Here are some tips that might help you keep those New Year's resolutions.

Start off with small reachable

goals. For example, if you want to exercise more, start with five minutes and gradually increase the time and intensity.

2. Write

out the goal for the week and post it somewhere you will see it. Resolutions are easily forgotten.

3. Replace old

habits with something new. If you want to cut back on criticism, try with compliments.

Remember to

replacing it

praise yourself along the way. Treat yourself to something

special for making or attempting each small goal. The trick is to feel good while reaching your goal, not just at the end.

5. Why are you waiting until the New Year to make this resolution? Are you really committed to the change? Is someone pressuring you to improve? The answers may shed light on your attitude or motivation.

6. Find someone to support your efforts. The research is overwhelming that support from friends and family can significantly help you cope with

changes.

7. Continually image the "new" you. If you want to be more outgoing, image yourself being competent while socializing. Picture in your mind what you will say, and how you will

look.

Keep trying. Revise your plan if necessary. You only fail when you stop trying.

If you have other tips that have worked for you, send them to me and I'll add them later.

Dr. Moore is a clinical psychologist in private practice. He also teaches, consults, and conducts research several institutions in Cleveland.

1865 marks first declaration of gay solidarity

HUNGARY

——

A newly-discovered document dates the concept of a Gay political and social organization far back as 1865 earlier scholars had once believed.

as than

The document, "Bylaws for the Urning Union," was written in German by Karl Heinrich Ulrichs under the pseudonym, Numa Numatius. (As the term "homosexual" was not devised until 1877 and "Gay" not until 1895, Ulrichs and his contemporaries the term "Urning.")

used

In the document, Ulrichs proposed a union that would "bring Urnings out of their previous isolation and unite

them into a compact mass bound together in solidarity."

The bylaws suggested that the union should "champion the inborn human rights of Urnings...before the law" and "to found an Urning literature."

Gay scholar Manfred Heizer discovered the document in the Hungarian National Library. There is no evidence that the "Union" ever actually formed, although in 1867 Ulrichs became the first self-proclaimed homosexual to speak out publicly for the rights of homosexuals.

Ohio politial organization calls planning meeting

On Saturday, March 5, GALA-Ohio (Gay and Lesbian Alliance of Ohio) will hold a planning meeting at the GEAR Center. All interested groups, organizations and individuals will be welcomed and all are encouraged to attend this meeting. Everyone who attends will have a voice and a vote in the future of GALA-Ohio. purpose of this meeting is to plan the future of GALA-Ohio.

The

GALA-Ohio is a relatively new state-wide organization whose purposes include the coordination of information on the state-wide candidates for political office, the sharing of information among the various areas of the state, the coordination of gay and lesbian lobbying on the state-wide level, and to follow through on the demands of the March on Washington.

If you wish further information write: GALA-Ohio, c/o 3211 Jefferson

Avenue, Apt. 3, Cincinnati, OH 45220,

or call John at 1-513-542-6211.

10% OFF

with this

coupon

Affordable Treasures

16806 Madison Ave. Lakewood, Ohio 44107 521-7253

• Collectables • Antiques • Furniture • Jewelry

• Linens

• Glassware

ACCEPTING CONSIGNMENTS

THEN

New & Used Books

Art Literature ★ Politics & So Much More

Monday-Saturday, 10-6 Sunday, 12-5

Bookstore on West 25th

1921 West 25th St. Cleveland, Ohio 44113

(6 Steps Down from the West Side Market) 566-8897

Our activities

BLACK & WHITE MEN include rap meetings, TOGETHER/CLEVELAND racism and other

workshops on

forms of prejudice, educational sessions on black and gay history, parties and other social events, a yearly retreat, and networking with members of other chapters.

We are interested in men and women who will bring enthusiasm, ideas, and a willingness to be engaged and to work.

COME, JOIN US!

For further information call: John at 371-4597 or write: BWMT/Cleveland P.O. Box 5144 Cleveland, OH 44101-0144